“Women have settled, so much so that we’ve chosen to stand still in mediocrity.”- April Lashon
Sunday, February 5, 2012
A Womn's Worth!
Earlier this morning I had an opportunity to speak into the life of a young woman. Now what some people might call coincidence or happenstance, I like to call divine appointments from God. Why? Because I honestly believe every person put in my path has been carefully orchestrated not by some genie in a bottle, but an awesome God who knows that I can be incredibly useful when needed. This young, very attractive woman was beating herself up because she had apparently been stood up by a blind date. What shocked me is that she assumed that she had done something wrong. I suggested that she needn’t look at being stood up as rejection, but perhaps God had intervened and protected her from danger. We do it all the time don’t we? We assume it’s always our fault and not a loving, awesome, wonderful Father, namely God looking out for His little girls. What a beautiful thing to possess wisdom, and what a beautiful thing to be able to dispense it to young women who I pray will one day pass it on. My heart has been extremely heavy lately for future generations of women who’ve been immersed in a culture of what I like to call complete and utter foolishness. It saddens me to think many of our young women no longer seem to have hopes of becoming Doctors, Lawyers, Teachers, Engineers, or Nurses. No, our young women would much rather star in a sex tape, or some ridiculous reality show in hopes of bettering themselves. I swear sometimes I feel like I’m completely surrounded by a generation of wanna be starlets in platform shoes, heavy eye shadow and spandex and it’s heartbreaking. I don’t think I’ve ever seen it this bad, the lack of pride, morals and character. I look at some of these young women who are barely out of their teens and they look so old. I wonder what they really see when they look in the mirror, and I’m not talking about the makeup, the tight clothing, I’m talking about their self -esteem. It’s just my opinion, but the sexier a woman tries to appear outwardly, the lower she seems to truly feel about her self- inwardly.
What I like to call my office is but a few strategically placed Starbucks located within the 25 miles or so I happen to frequent during the course of the week. On any given day, I can expect to hear a boisterous group of women comparing their weight, children, SUV’s, houses, or their husband’s incomes. It’s maddening at times, to think some women actually believe the sum of their worth is comprised of numbers. Why are we as women so hard on ourselves? Why does every single event in a woman’s life has to be about who’s the skinniest, prettiest or fairest girl in the land? Why does our entire existence have to revolve around our weight, breast size and our skin color? Don’t you get sick of being held to impossible standards of beauty, being objectified, over looked and obstructed at every turn? What happened to us? What happened to the older generation of women who took the time to mentor and mold us? They can’t all be cougars, can they? Our fight didn’t stop with the right to vote, Roe vs. Wade or some man’s paycheck... or moving to the suburbs. There is still work to be done. There are countless women out there that need guidance. Prostitution, Human Trafficking, Pornography and these appalling reality shows have put scales over our eyes and nothing short of a Damascus Road experience will allow us to see again.