Thursday, January 21, 2010
1. Does his wife know?
2. Do you get that “lust” “loneliness” and “love” are three very different things?
3. Are you having sexual relationships with this man
4. Is this relationship worth your peace?
5. How would you feel if you were the wife?
6. Why don’t you care more about yourself?
7. Do you understand this man is a liar?
8. How do you feel afterwards when he returns home to his wife?
9. Do you think he’s really going to marry you?
10. Why do you keep involving yourself in these types of situations?
I’m watching her jaw drop as she searches for the right words to rationalize her poor choices again. I suspect I’ll be waiting until she can begin to deal with her low regard of herself. I remember being in a similar “love story”! Where is my knight in shining armor? He’s probably still with his wife, the wife he told me he was leaving too I suppose. So ladies, just remember you deserve better from every man you allow into your life. If a man can “talk you out of your panties, he can talk you out of your promise”. God promises the best for us but you can only know this if you determine you want the best for yourself.
Monday, January 18, 2010
Jermaine “Pop Yo Collar”- Is it me or does Halima agitate you just a little every time she “subtly suggests” Jermaine “do” something or “say” something that may affect his brothers in ways she couldn’t possibly comprehend? I don’t know if it was careful editing or some “Jermagical” transformation, but Jermaine, in just a few short weeks seemed to come “full circle”. In my estimation as far as the musical side of things, Jermaine clearly is the leader. He does seem to possess the wherewithal to see this project to the end. Jermaine seemed like a shrewd politician at first getting everybody on board but I hope his “let’s show em rhetoric” isn’t lost in all of his colorful scarves.
Tito “Take Me as I Am”- Musicians always seem to have a unique camaraderie. This is one thing he and Jermaine share and just maybe Jackie and Marlon “resent” it just a little. Next to Jermaine, Tito is going to keep the music alive. I think being a musician keeps him in an entirely different frame of mind. I kept looking at his house and wondering what’s missing? I did notice one thing: Tito didn’t look at his “lady friend” nearly with the same intensity as he did that darn guitar.
Marlon “Makin Big Moves & Smiles"- As always I was impressed that Marlon avails himself to his family. Throughout this series one theme was unmistakable, this passive aggressive behavior between the brothers. It varied from lowered voices, to bowed heads and no direct eye contact. Yes Marlon makes a lot of jokes but listen closely and he’s really making “huge” statements with the very things he jokes about. Now there’s absolutely nothing wrong with humor but why doesn’t he feel comfortable unleashing what’s really in his heart?
Jackie “Sexy Sensitive”- I will say it again, this man is a Taurus through and through (his birthday is 4 days after mine). I just wanted to scream “just do yo doggone thang then” Jackie conveniently seems to view things in “black or white.” There is no “gray” area and he has no problem changing, breaking, or making the rules when it suits his “personal” agenda. Though the moment was priceless, I doubt Jermaine putting him on speakerphone was anything other than excitement over finally accomplishing something musically. I love Jackie but a lot of the time his answers are ambiguous. He makes statements but his actions/follow through are in direct contradiction to them. Okay will somebody please tell me what is so freaking difficult about having “multiple” producers on a record? I completely understood his reservations about being “branded” with “Janet’s signature sound”, but at the same time he just languishes in the “I’m the big brother role” without taking “real” action. The Jacksons work well “under pressure” I believe is what he stated at the very onset of this series. I just hope the “pressure” doesn’t “vaporize” all together in complacency. Being a big brother doesn’t imply that you always get your way. Wars need warriors but there is nothing wrong with compromise or input from others.